jeudi 6 février 2014

Dealing With The Emotions Of Divorce

By Norbert Higensen


You may know someone in an abusive relationship or you may be in one yourself. Many times these relationships are with those who have become very close to you in some way or another. When you find yourself in a relationship that is abusive or when you find someone else that needs help, here are some tips to keep them safe.

If you can, imagine for a moment a human life without a single relationship. This is difficult and maybe even impossible, because from birth, each human being is presented with relationships, and throughout life, these relationships are able to grow as more relationships are built and individuals become part of communities.

Most of us experience lives full of mostly good and fulfilling relationships that improve our lives and make us more able to face the difficulties that come our way. However, there are some who end up in relationships that are unhealthy, and even unsafe. When relationships are abusive and unhealthy, they have a negative effect on every aspect of a person's life. It is imperative that individuals remove themselves from these unhealthy relationships, but sometimes, that is the most difficult thing in the world to do.

Whether an unhealthy relationship is with a family member, a friend, a significant other, or a spouse, it is never okay for one person to abuse another. Sometimes, individuals in these situations have difficulties imagining a way out and often, they find themselves feeling extremely conflicted. Relationships are complicated, and even the most abusive relationship has elements of security that can often make the situation confusing and even more hurtful.

The major reason that many people stay in abusive relationships is because they just don't have the confidence to make it out in the world on their own. The fear of leaving is much stronger than the fear of being physically abused in cases like these. Sometimes this is because there are children in the picture. When you look at children and their safety, it takes a responsible parent to ensure that they are safe. When one of those entities is compromised, it is up to the second entity to take on the responsibility. This is the way that things are seen in a court of law as well. When you know that the person you are with is abusive and you choose not to leave, there can be some very serious legal consequences.

Every individual's needs are different and you need to take care of yourself and consider all of your options to help you personally in dealing with the emotions of divorce. For some, attending a support group is the best thing, for others it may be professional counseling, and yet for others who have tried everything and nothing seems to help, because of a challenging former spouse, it may be time to consider another option. Often times the solution may only be found through an excellent divorce lawyer.

When you finally make the decision you will be glad you did. It is a surprisingly free and empowering world for those who leave such relationships. Make sure that you are ready for what comes with all of your relationships.




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